Accepting Others’ Invitations || Alexandra Kuykendall | alexandrakuykendall.com
A blanket on the floor. A few cookies, goldfish crackers and carrot sticks sitting on a mishmash of plastic dishes.
It all looked a little familiar. I knew where those cookies had come from and wondered how this little hostess
managed to get to the package stored high up in the cupboards. Most important to this familiar scene was a
girl dressed in her finest ragged princess dress thrown over the day’s regular leggings and long-sleeved T-shirt,
wearing her most important accessory: a smile stretched across her face, proud of the picnic tea party she
I’ve lived some version of this invitation many times in my house. I’m raising four hostesses who have spent
some magic preschool years creating a “feast” and setting a table with me in mind. They’ve then approached
me with “Mommy come see!”, “Sit with me!” or “I made this for you.” Turning down their invitations was never
an option. I always needed to sit and admire all they had done, verbalizing my appreciation with every bite. To
not, would have been to minimize their hard work in setting a space for me.
Hospitality is a spirit of welcome - a posture of inclusion. It can be carried out in practical ways that often involve nourishing our bodies through food and a place to sleep. We see Jesus experiencing hospitality throughout
his short life. He accepted many invitations of the mishmash sort, meals specially prepared, and places to lay
his head. In most of these stories he was not the host, but the invitee accepting the gracious, yet imperfect
invitation of others to welcome him in.
As we consider the idea of setting the table for someone to come and join us, let us not forget to accept the
invitations our neighbors offer as well. Because when we do, we acknowledge their hard work and their efforts
to set a space for us. We see the special trouble they’ve gone to, no matter how humble the offering, to make
us feel at home. Accepting others’ invitations is as much hospitality as offering them. Because it is the spirit
of welcome we all long for.
• When is it difficult for you to accept a neighbor’s invitation for hospitality? Why do you think it is?
• Who would you like to spend more time with? How can you say “yes” to their invitations with
• How has Jesus set an example for you to accept others’ invitations? How can you bring your spirit
of welcome to another’s space?
Alexandra Kuykendall, a trusted voice for Christian women, speaks on issues of how faith impacts everyday
life. She is the cofounder of The Open Door Sisterhood, a community of women working to be world changers
for good right where they are. She cohosts a podcast and retreat under the same name. Alex has authored
four books, her most recent, Loving My Actual Neighbor. Alex lives in the shadows of downtown Denver
with her husband, Derek, and their 4 daughters who range in age from 16 to 7. You can connect with her at